Families Matter

Why Societal Origin and Family Structures
Are Important

Mother and Baby

161218, 8AM



At first, we were only concerned with understanding and improving clinical interventions to help parents help their children and families.

This road led us elsewhere however. For many, not all, families we were able to cut the expense and time of therapy for the relief of symptoms in their children simply by working with the parents. We were also able to help these families get on a more solid and adaptive road for their future development.

We started asking "Why is this working?"

This site seeks to explore the hypotheses that arose from the forty-plus years of working with individual, families and most of all; the parents.

We have combined, actually we have united, elements from different subsets of the “social sciences” to produce a more meaningful and useable understanding of more general human motivation and behavior. From the family therapy literature, especially Murray Bowen, MD, we have chosen the following concepts to integrate with non-clinical considerations:

a. The multi-generational transmission process.

b. The systems nature of family interaction and development.

c. The systems nature of anxiety regulation.

d. The universality of the triangulating process in all systems including the family and parenting process.

e. By “systems” we mean the intimate connections and circular interactions of all things human. In understanding a child’s strengths and challenges we need to understand the parents, the family and the schools. In understanding the parents, we need to understand the details of their intimate as well as work lives. Surely, we study the family of origin of each parent. In understanding the family of origin of each, we need to take into account the society of origin. To the reader, inexperienced clinically, this may seem an endless trip to psychobabble and egghead land. It is not. In fact, I’ve found that when we are cognizant of these dimensions in a holistic, gestalt way, the speed and depth of therapy is greatly enhanced for the child patient; although, not necessarily for the couple. In shorthand, we emphasize the circular nature of families in a society affected by various institutions (schools, police, gender and racial definitions, poli-economic patterns, and rules, laws and traditions, etc.) affecting the individual, affecting the family, and so on in a nonlinear manner.

We have focused on macroeconomics, governance and political science, history and geopolitics as intimate but mysterious factors in understanding family functioning and conversely we have focused on the family in adding depth to certain societal and cultural dimensions.

We posit that Marx was wrong. Religion is not an opiate foisted on victims, but a manifestation of two deeply desired human needs; the need for “in-pack belonging and identity”, and a need for “out-pack-exclusion.” Both these are considered primitive, universal and biological evolutionary endowments. Over the centuries, societies have channeled and added modified expressions; the pack needs have not been eradicated. As a pack related pattern, the need for both belonging and other-exclusion, has implications for industry, HR departments, education, and certainly for mental health and developmental policies.